A Mothers Quest to Find A Solution for Aspergers/High Functioning Autism.

If you have found your way to this page by mishap searching for something but really not sure what by the end of this you will be realising I have walked in your shoes.  Trying to find a way to break through an invisible wall surrounding a loved one, feeling you are just holding on by a fraying thread.  Sound familiar.  I happened to be speaking to my sister one day and mentioned I felt like I was getting nowhere trying to reach my middle daughters inner true self.  I knew she had potential, is very intelligent, the tests all show it, but in everyday life and at school it just was not evident.  Glimpses of brilliance were faded by a deep sorrow and lack of confidence that caused severe rashes and highs and lows of emotions. We were on a constant roller coaster ride that seemed to be getting more intense every year.  How, when did everything go so wrong, how could I have damaged my child so badly I kept thinking?

Kayla has been diagnosed Aspergers/High Functioning Autism.  My sister gave me Terri’s number and I contacted her the same day.  It was a couple of days before Terri could actually speak to me properly and during this period I felt my burden had already lessened.  I felt confident somehow within myself that I could be on the right track.

Speaking to Terri she sensed that Kayla had had a trauma at the age of 2yrs and 5 mths.  At first I could not think what this might be but when I looked through our photo albums I realised Kayla had changed physically at about that age. You could see it in her face.  Remembering back I mentioned to Terri that I was doing some parenting courses at that time and the facilitator held a picnic for the mums and children.  Terri at once said that was it.  I was surprised when she said “I can see a woman standing over Kayla, she has really wavy dark hair”.  I felt sick in the stomach and was close to tears at what Terri said and remembering the events of that day.

During the day there were games etc and one game Kayla was left out of having a turn.  The facilitator thought she might have been too young to understand the game and skipped her.  Well Kayla through herself into the biggest screaming session I have ever witnessed and was berated by this woman who was standing over her.  I can still picture the incident today.  No amount of trying to explain to this woman that Kayla was only reacting that way because she felt left out when everyone else had had a turn would do.  Without realising it I took home a very changed child that day. Kayla was used after that occasion time and time again as an example of a child out of control.  We stopped going to these classes and stopped all contact with the woman as we could no longer trust her practices and the advice she was giving. I only really realise now the tragedy of that day.

Kayla had trouble looking people in the face and trusting people ever again after that.  She became a very withdrawn child and quite sickly.  Over the years she would just start to cry but never even know why she cried.  If anyone raised a voice after that and she would be heading off somewhere to find a safe place to hide.  She even hid under tables at school in pre primary if voices were raised.  It was too much for her.  Lots of quirky little habits would eventuate that now all make sense.  At birthday parties she would often be away on her own, happy with her own company.  It was easier for her.  Over the years we just treated her as an individual and that was Kayla.  Deep down I knew I was just trying to convince myself that in the long run she would survive.  She would be OK.

The reality is that it just gets harder.  The challenges just keep coming and get harder and harder.  I wanted for my happy, bubbly, curly headed Kayla back again, the one with the eyes that melted your heart  – not broke it.  But how?

This is where Terri comes into the picture.  Terri came to our house and met myself and Kayla for the first time.  I had talked on the phone on several occasions and she felt so familiar that no one was uncomfortable.  With Kayla’s and my permission Terri started her healing process with Kayla.  Terri initially asked a few questions and with muscle testing determined a base line in tone and strength of her voice and confidence, or rather lack of, to determine a comparison after treatment. Terri did not need to physically touch Kayla during the next part of the session.  Hearing Terri patiently reinforce Kayla’s own subconscious with real beliefs and put away all the perceived learned beliefs is maybe the only way I can explain what was happening.  Kayla was laying down peacefully repeating phrases where necessary and where the most damage or rather the most misconceived beliefs were she actually fell asleep.  A very deep sleep.  Terri could still work on her subconscious while Kayla was asleep.  When it was time to wake Kayla she woke unstartled and not realising she had even been asleep.  Terri asked her a few of the same questions before treatment with muscle testing to see if any changes had occurred.   The change in her voice was very noticeable.  Kayla’s face had changed and her whole body language was more upright.  To prove a change had happened in Kayla Terri took Kayla back to before the treatment.  Her face dropped immediately, her shoulders dropped and fell inward and tears welled in her eyes.  Terri quickly brought her back to post treatment and she was the confident, upright Kayla again.  Kayla went to bed not long after this very tired.

The next day was amazing.

Kayla woke up and got ready to go to sailing and when I saw her she was dressed, ready for breakfast and the what I call “dog eyes” were not evident.  She looked bright, alert and unusually bodily co-ordinated.  No ape arms (knuckles dragging on the ground and slumping) and no jerky motions of I am going this way, no hang on I am going this way.

Then we were running a little late (her sister and a friend were dragging their feet ) to get to sailing  - there was no panic – usually its “when are we gonna get there” she’s running to look at the clock every five seconds, big round eyes – there was nothing.  Just a look of calmness and serenity.  She was so accepting and even asked me to stop on the way to get a couple of “illegal” by our standards snacks at the deli which made her even more late.  Once we arrived at sailing she put her gear away and then headed straight out to start rigging up boats.  She was so focused.  She started to work very business like with someone whom she would normally avoid.  I said I was leaving and she came and gave me the biggest, warmest hug ever – in front of everyone.   I was kind of gobsmacked.

Her eyes are what surprise me the most.  They have a roundness to them and a sheen or something that I have not seen, they have lost a darkness that was sorrowful – it is hard to explain I cannot find the right words to describe them, they did not have that guarded, stern look about them.  I actually have to stop myself staring at her – it’s like she is a beautiful curiosity I have held in my hands for a long time but have never really seen.

When I returned later in the day with my husband and we were all milling around the beach waiting for Kayla’s crew to depart for a night sail Kayla went and gave her dad the biggest hug.  He came to me and said “did you see that, there is a first time for everything”.  I was in tears.

Everyday since seeing Terri we have had an experience of the now Kayla that catches you and you just know that whatever surreal connection occurred it is for the greater good.  I thank Terri and that intangible something out there that has reconnected us with our precious gift again.  She is just so beautiful.  The challenges of life will never go away but now Kayla can see over the hills and not just keep slipping back down the mountain into the quagmire of sorrow.

I cannot scientifically tell you how Terri’s method works, but I personally believe we do not know everything there is to know either about the power of the mind.  I can only tell you what I have witnessed in my own child.  Tears used to flow in frustration at being helpless at having any positive influence on comforting hurts that she could not explain.  Now I know they are hurts I could not mend because they occurred outside my control.  Now my tears are for joy because here is a child who can now feel again and trust herself and others again and seeing the beauty of that in her face is the most beautiful priceless gift ever.  Her older sister came to me a week after treatment and said “Mum what is it with Kayla.  She’s AWAKE”, she did not even know Kayla had seen Terri.

Since then Brianna has had a session with Terri.  Bri has not had the trauma that Kayla has experienced but has had terrible trouble cancelling out the chatter in her brain that has affected her concentration.  That teenage attitude was becoming an issue as well and she was distancing herself from us.  We have always had a very good relationship with our children but everyone had been on edge for a couple of months.

Since seeing Terri this week has seen Bri much more flexible and communicative with all of us as a family and our extended family.  She is accepting of decisions being made that are to her advantage but more importantly understanding decisions that are to her disadvantage.  Concentration in class has been much better and her anxiety has lessened a great deal.  Study of an evening has resulted in open sessions with Brianna asking us for help and actually taking on board what is being discussed and retaining the information and applying it.  When chores are expected to be done we have had no banter about when and how they would be done she just gets in and does them.  Morning lateness has become a steady pace of organised calmness.  When requests are made I do not have to brace for the onslaught and a very pleasant week has been experienced by all.  Phew.  I feel much more relaxed and at peace.

My husband has been blessed with a feeling of being needed more by our children and feels his contribution this week to homework is appreciated and wanted.  He has always been there for the girls but this week there is a closeness and reciprocation of feelings that is much more noticeable than ever before.  He even seems to be standing prouder with the knowledge that we have done something very special for the girls.

From the moment I met Terri I have felt very comfortable with her presence and she does not perform any work on anyone without their permission.  I was present and gave permission for Terry to work on Kayla – the experience of watching her work was truly inspirational.  With Bri I was present to give my permission and was comfortable leaving Terri to work alone.

I can only say what I have experienced with the change in my daughters is to be compared to a holiday that everybody wants to be on.  Like you walked out a door, locked it behind you, got on a plane and left all the bad baggage behind and only took along the necessities.

I have no hesitation in recommending Terri for her Transformational Wellness program as I have witnessed firsthand the amazing changes not only with a child with a disability but your average teenager as well.  The children always had and will have the traits they have and this will not make them brighter or more intelligent but taking away all those negativities and misconceptions will, I believe, help them reach their full potential.  I believe in my heart and in my soul that I have given my children the best gift I can ever possibly give them and they are hardly even aware of it.

A truly remarkable aspect of this work is that Transformational Wellness is a ONE off event.  There are no “come back next week” or “I will see you to follow up in three days”, or “this will take twelve sessions of two hours, once a week”.   Kayla’s session took perhaps two and a half hours – because the traumas she received shocked her system so greatly,  whereas Bri’s session was about one and three quarter hours.  Kayla had no preconceived ideas about what was going to happen either as we do not know anyone whom Terri has treated in recent months with this work.  Bri new this work to be powerful, because she had seen changes in her sister.

My sister saw Terri a couple of years ago when Terri first began seeing people but since has added so much and refined so much it is now a more powerful reprogramming method.  Terri does not hurry the process and repeats areas of weakness over and over within the session until the subconscious is strong, then moves on.  Terri had not worked with many teenagers before my children for a number of reasons – firstly access to children – Terri has none of her own to trial per say, another being as parents we find it hard to trust people with our children and this is such an unknown and new method breakthrough that has no scientific proof, it is an unseen thing that is being given, it has no physical presence, the value is hard to justify and determine.  A couple of weeks living with my kids without the attitude, that tone and the self importance has been worth every cent invested.

Terri is the only person in the world working with this method and has developed the technique herself with the aid of friends as so called guinea pigs.  When I had mentioned to her about this teenage attitude and how it affects our whole family she decided to write attitudes into Bri’s program.  Yes the program is still being developed as Terri adjusts areas for individual peoples programs.  Some parts of Kayla’s session were not necessary for Brianna and vice versa.

I am so happy I made that call to Terri.  I have held off having a session with Terri for the simple reason that I wanted to experience the changes in the girls – as once I am reprogrammed my-self I will believe the girls were always the way they are now.

Peta Zella

Perth Western Australia

One Month after Kayla’s Session.

Dear Terri,

Kayla is certainly performing extremely well at the moment.  She has informed us she has been taking lots of notes in classes and the concentration is still very good.  We have just had some results back – She has scored 3.8 (class average 3.5, she scored second top mark) for English.  Science 82%.  Mathematics an amazing 92%.  An outstanding outcome which I believe has all to do with Your work getting her to focus.  Her expression on her face was worth bottling when she told us.