How to get over a Relationship Breakdown

Tina Bower, Perth, Western Australia… shares her story about how Transformational Wellness helped her recover from a relationship breakdown in just 1 session..

Please spend a few moments of your time to hear what Tina has to say about her life changing experiences from Transformational Wellness….

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 The acceptance of relationship breakdown.

 From the moment a person is born they enter into a family relationship. These relationships can be either effective or ineffective, it all depends on the environmental influences and conditions that are experienced.

 Once a person enters puberty they enter into new relationships which are reflected in the form of friends or companions. These relationships form the foundations for how a person responds to all future relationships.

During puberty an adolescent experiences a range of emotions from, Anger through to Joy. These emotions then become the deciding factors in how all relationships are formed.

 When Love, Joy and Happiness are experienced, the Sub Conscious  creates beliefs that relationships are safe and nurturing. When Anger, Hate, Jealousy, Aggression, Guilt or Shame is experienced, the Sub Conscious  creates beliefs that relationships are hostile and unsafe. As an adolescent transitions to an adult, these beliefs are supported by relationships that either support a person in their emotional happiness, or alternatively create emotional protection.

When a person experiences loving relationships, that person responds to other people in a friendly, open, warm, inviting, caring and supportive manner.

When a person experiences relationships that are emotionally painful, that person responds to other people in a protective, guarded, sensitive, responsive and reactive manner.

At any time that a person enters a new relationship, initially the ‘newness’ of the relationship provides a freshness and excitement. During this period a couple will experience emotions such as love, joy, and happiness. However, once the relationship enters a more permanent arrangement, the tendency is for a couple to relax and become more comfortable with each other. It’s during this phase that a persons past experiences begin to reveal themselves.

As the relationship evolves a couple will experience periods of financial stress, family stress, work related stress and environmental stress. It’s these stresses that lead to a person feeling insecure, vulnerable, unworthy, unsafe or not valued.

 By contrast when a person experiences love, joy and happiness in all of their relationships, then this person will feel emotionally strong enough to maintain balance through the stressful periods in a relationship. When a person experiences anger, hate, resentment or jealousy in their relationships, then this person will feel emotionally weak, and will be challenged to maintain balance during any stressful periods in a relationship.

 The Sub Conscious is the store-house of all the memories of all past experiences. And it is these experiences that contribute to the emotional stresses that contribute to the eventual breakdown of a relationship.

 Once the Sub Conscious Mind enters a stressed state, it then becomes unbalanced. From this state a person begins to feel emotionally fragile and delicate.

 At the point at which a relationship breaks down there are numerous factors contributing to this experience. They may include, falling out of love, feeling undervalued, feeling insecure, feeling unworthy, feeling unloved, or feeling detached.

 As most relationships are ended by one person, rather than by mutual consent, the way a person responds to the ending of the relationship, is strongly influenced by the stored emotions.

 Through this breakdown, a person’s previous exposure to emotional hurts and distress, will see them react according to their beliefs and conditioning. The consequence of this will be to see this person engage in the role of either being a victim, being a controller, being fearful,  being dominate, feeling guilty, or being stuck in a story of “poor me”.     

 For a person to end a relationship with respect and compassion, they must be able to have full access to all available supportive emotions and beliefs. To achieve this, one must develop the ability to make decisions un-emotionally, basing all such decisions on the circumstances, rather than on past emotional hurts.

 To effectively make these unemotional decisions, a person must gain access to beliefs that support a healthy relationship separation. This would require the reprogramming of the Sub Conscious Mind, so that the most appropriate decisions can be made when it comes time for a relationship to end.

A relationship breakdown is so stressful to the Sub Conscious Mind, that all previous balancing will become affected over the short term. Through this experience, the cell, Mitochondrial Matrix becomes over-charged, which leads to a person feeling overwhelmed, over tired, over stressed, and over anxious.  The consequence of this is anger, frustration, aggression, abuse, abnormal behaviour, depression, violent behaviour and resentment.

Transformational Wellness™  has developed a program that assists with the integration of the Sub Conscious Mind, the Conscious Mind and the Super Conscious. Through this program, a person will gain access to all effective emotions and beliefs.